Chic to be geek

"Geek is the new sexy" said Tyra, in her latest episode of The Tyra Banks Show.

Is this the new and upcoming trend? Can women find men clad in sweatshirt and nerdy glasses the next HOT thing? Hmm.. i wonder..

We drooled whenever a hot dude walked past. Killer body, cute face, hypnotic eyes! Mc dreamy vs Mc steamy! U name it. We know them all.

I used to be one of those women. I will fall for bad boys-> Bikers, players, clubbers.. you name it. I have been with them all! Guys with tattoos? OMG, Hot!

But don't we all, at one point in our life. Fell into the trap of these guys... who promise a life of fun and laughter. Endless partying, sex, booze and joyrides. Sounds exciting? For a moment, yes. But, be prepared for a hell lot of heartbreak, crying and a lifetime full of regrets! Well.. at least for me. These are the kind of guys who offer u short term pleasure, but not eternal happiness. I guess it happens to a lot of women out there. Naivety, it comes with age!

Let's see.. we know these guys are bad! But just what is it that attracts us to them? Their looks, the cool bike, fancy helmet, and just downright dangerous lifestyle. It's thrilling and just plain fun! But are they the type one sees as a lifetime partner? To some yes, to me.. never!

As time progresses, "the love for bad boys" becomes a phase. Passe i must say. And so, Hollywood commercialises the next BIG thing. The Sexy Geek! Nerds can be very appealing too.. with a lil makeup, style and personality.. wahlah. They can be damn HOT.. and the best part, they are intelligent, stable and loyal! Most of them at least. U will have a lifetime feast for your eyes, brain and heart!

Yes, they can be a lil dull. Obsession for boardgames, online games, Starwars, Star trek (Hell no.. not watching that... bt dnt mind the light sabre.. hehe), reading, endless debate on world issues, etc.. but.. you will be surprise, they might have some better skills in other "areas" too.. they love to read dnt they, they might just put that bedroom theories they learn from books to practical use.. ;) Always a first time for everything..

Someone use to say, "Good looks fade, but class is permanent".. and the new geeks have CLASS alright!

Look at our very own celebrity geeks.. the heartthrobs!

Adam brody a.k.a Seth Cohen from the Oc, Wentworthmiller a.k.a Michael Scofield from Prison Break, and Christopher Gorham a.k.a Henry from Ugly Betty. Just your average geek, with a killer smile and a pair of innocent eyes anyone can just DIE for!!!

Well.. the next time you meet a geek, just heed the following advise.

1. There is a geek in everyone of us. You used to be one too, in one way or another. You were a kid before, don't tell me you know what fashion was then.. ;)

2. Geeks can be sexy! Proper definition: nerds are intelligent, nonconformist and individualistic. Their obsession in a particular thing can be perceived as overly intellectual. So u might learn a thing or two. And get ready to have the most stimulating conversation ever!

3. An IT geek. Better treat him like a king, ladies! He is your lifesaver the next time ur PC goes nuts on u!

4. Improve your vocabulary. Mine definitely has! Haha.. it is comforting to know, after years of bad English, you can finally speak to someone who converse perfectly in that language. A change is always good, i say.

Just a word of caution. Geek vs Dork. If he is the latter (often construed as a loser), i suggest you start running! ;)

Enjoy the moments w your Mr GEEKy! I definitely am..!

Happy birthday Jesse!

TO my dear fren Jesse, Happy birthday!! U just turned 32 dude.. so wishing u d best yr and many more to come. Be good! Pls spare some of our local girls here.. haha.. And hope one day u find dat dream girl u have been searching for... ur nt getting any younger u know!... ;)

B seeing u wen u get back buddy! And to Ahman -> nice to have met u... Enjoy ur Bali/Phuket trip guys


Smooch smooch... P.S: I am straight still.. haha

"I Love You": When is it too soon to say?

Been keeping numb for weeks,

Trying to contain this strong feeling inside of her

In a state of dilemma

She wonders

Should she say those forbidden words

Or should they remain unspoken

When is saying "I love you" just too soon?

Three simple words with a meaning

Deeper than the ocean

Seen as a burden? Or a boon?

Again, she wonders

Took up the courage one night

To profess her inner sentiments

Engulfed with the fear of rejection

She stared into his eyes... expressed her thoughts out loud

"I love you", she said

He glanced shyly at her

Gave the sweetest smile

And kissed her farewell

She waited. He didn't say it.

Ashamed? Embarrassed? Or just plain regret?

No words could describe how she felt

Too many questions lingered in her mind

Her heart grew heavy

Filled with sorrow and disappointment

Has he refused her love?

Or has her confession just caught him by surprise?

Only he has the answer to her longing heart

"I love You"

The words that sing so sweetly in our ears

Overwhelms us with a burst of emotions

The perfect surprise, that leaves us all lost for words

Treasure those 3 words. Never take them for granted. To say the words "I love you" is not a matter of where one said it. It is a matter of whom those words are meant for. Time and place are insignificant in the confession of love. And True love is to give, without the intent of receiving.

For you dear, "I love you".

An overjealous spouse can hurt your relationship

" The curse of the Green Eye" by Mr Sarcasma (an extract from his own)

We often fear the unknown. Thats why couples shd be honest & tell each other about the people in their lives. When someone tries to hide the existence of certain people from the other, it gives rise to suspicions and encourages mistrust.

A follow up on the blog submitted by my dear M.S.

Honesty and trust, a MUST-HAVE in any relationship. But when is it that jealousy overrides all else that you hold strongly to -> like TRUST, personal space and respect.

I watched the movie Seven last night, and somehow, it got me thinking. Jealousy, a feeling of grudging admiration and desire to have something that is possessed by another, is a common sensation felt by couples in any relationship. Good jealousy is healthy as it expresses your love for your significant other. His overprotectiveness can be such a turn on at times, but of course, in moderation. Men, the high ego being, do not flaunt their weakness openly for all to see, so when they say "Honey, m jealous".. cherish those words like a precious gem. They are not said often.. ;)

However, when is The big J, just TOO MUCH to bear? Is jealousy ever part of the 7 sins? Or is it the root cause for our SEVEN cardinal vices? Let's explore the possibility.

1. Overjealousy = Lust
How many times have we heard of profane remarks from an overjealous bf/gf that socialising equals to having multiple uncontrollable sex! I had that experience before. An ex of mine used to call me a whore/slut/bitch, just because i have a lot of guyfrens either schoolmates or just guy cousins! Crazy i know, but he seemed to think i would sleep with all of them. WTF!

But if you think abt it, perhaps he was behaving that way due to the unfilfilled lust that was building up in him. We were young then, and sex was never on MY mind! And so, being a young man and all, since he could not satisfy that inner desire, he turned his frustrations to jealousy! He says "If I cant have me, no one will!" -> Atypical

2. Overjealousy = Greed
Greed, like lust, is a sin of excess. In my context, greed does not refer to the acquisition of wealth, rather, a possession of another being. Heard n seen so many cases, whereby the girl is just not allowed to meet nor know anyone but him and him alone. A gf of mine is going thru the same thing. She lost all contacts with her frens, EVEN ME, just bacause her bf doesnt allow her to keep in touch with any of them. Not even with her family. Watching tv with her mum is a SIN to him. He wants her only to himself. And no one else can get a share of "her pie".

3. Overjealousy = Wrath
Wrath, the inordinate feelings of hatred and anger. Again, a victim myself to physical abuse. One thing i learnt from this was never to lay hands on a raging bf! They will just hit you even harder.But is it worth it to hit ur spouse, just to vent your anger n let your jealousy be known to her?

4. Overjealousy = Envy
Thomas Aquinas described envy as the "sorrow for another's good". Often a time, that happens in a relationship too. The bf who is jealous of the career success of his gf, often will do all means just to impede it(e.g No OT allowed, no luncheon with colleagues etc). Envy can also happen in friendship. Jealousy among good friends leading to unnecessary conflicts. A test of your friendship for sure. Well.. Hollywood even made a movie out of it. Envy feat Ben Stiller and Jack Black. Good movie!

In all, overjealousy is related to 4 out of 7 deadly sins! Be wary guys, you would not want to have the "Jealous syndrome"! It can turn into a deadly disease. And only you have the cure for it.

On an ending note, a quote from our dear ol' Mr Sarcasma
"Hold on to LOVE as you would hold water in the palm of your hand.
Clutch at it and it's GONE."

The sexless marriage

Marriage, a union of two souls. He is your chosen one: to be Your soulmate, your partner for life through thick and thin. But is it true what they say; "Once hitched, the romance ends!"

Statistical findings in the US showed that, married adults have sex less frequently than anyone in the world. On average, Americans have made love 85 times a year compared to 103 times in Europe. Love making is definitely on the high side among the French. The "French factor" it is called. You live in Europe, be set to have orgasms on a regular basis!

Similarly, in Singapore, we have witnessed the falling birth rates, the rising divorce cases and late marriage.

Why the disturbing numbers? Has sex become undesirable the moment we turn "Mrs"? Some of the reasons cited are time constraints, children, stress, and many more. Endless reasons. And the most recent excuse to marriage dissolution (according to the ST article), the "Me syndrome". These are couples who took their competitive nature a little too seriously. Wanting to be first in everything, even at the expense of compromise. What is the point of saying "I do" to marriage when it is just going to end up as "I don't"!

A worrying trend for the future. Singapore is set to become another Japan in the years to come. Rise of the ageing population -> an anathema condemned by all political leaders.

Ellen, in her show, recently talked about the same issue on sex and marriage. Is there a negative correlation between these two? Based on her research, Americans tend to have sex at least once a week, on average. According to one of the audience she interviewed, sex is a scheduled affair between her and the husband. Due to the hectic career both have, sex is capped at once a week.

Sadly, sex has become part of a chore, a routine activity that one has to plan in order to execute. "The sexless couple" the rightful term for married adults who fall into the following pattern of sex:
Newly weds - Daily sex
Yrs of marriage - Sex once or twice a month (sometimes, none after 3-4 mths)

Even with sex, it is not the usual passionate and erotic love making. Rather, sex has become barren, passionless and mechanical. The older we get, the lesser the desire to have sex with our spouse.

Has marriage really kill sex? Is age a factor to lasting love making? Has our romance die the moment we walk down that aisle? Endless questions, no definite answer.

A societal dilemma that remains within us.

Quoted from an article in Straits Time, "There is no quick solution to a universal problem".

Snap snap*

A day spent wif my beloved fren-cum-sis, Nasha. Winding down at Macdonalds... and what do u know.. we met a new fren, Shadow (apa yg shadowy abt him pun aku tak tau! hahaha).. Soo.. as usual.. more picture takings...
*Sipping my tea... was raining rather heavily at that time..

My heart was pounding as to what awaits later.. m meeting him for an overnight outing at Sentosa.Oudoor Camping and star gazing. My first, in my 26 yrs of living.. haha.. Again.. more pictures. Unfortunately a little too dark for some of the pics. I felt like a tourist on this small island.Kept snapping pics every chance i got. Well.. i gotta blend in with the tourists,dnt i.. (tak nampak mcm "suaku" sikit.. hehe.. anyone asked.. just say m from Japan!)

Anyway, thanks sweety for that great outing. I had fun on that night! A great combination of perfect company, good food, nice view/ambience and amazing conversation! And the gesture u did was d perfect surprise anyone culd ever gave me (*winks). Looking forward to spending more time wif u!

A lil something from me to you...

When i thought all is over,

My life, my career, my everything

You came knocking

You swept me off my feet,

With your charms, your wit

And your million dollar smile

You did what no one ever

Neither with money,

Nor meaningless flattery

You showered me

Endless affection and tender care

Priceless gifts no rich man can share

That memorable night

I gave you my heart and my soul

To bear and to hold

I have never felt more blessed

Complete and happy

To have found You who truly understand me!

A lil something from me to you...

Star Light Star Bright

Star Light Star Bright

And so we were at Asia’s southernmost tip

In search of answers to questions that have got us piqued

Answers that could either bring us closer

Or raise more questions that yield no answer

We sought the stars to give us a sign

But alas finding none

Placed our trust in each other’s hands

I do not know what our futures hold

I do not know when red-hot embers grow cold

All I know is how my heart sings when you’re next to me

That there is no other place on Earth I’d rather be..

Originally composed by Mr Sarcasma

Photos, photos and more photos

Special thanks to all my friends yesterday for the wonderful night. Dinner, coffee and endless laughter. Alfi, you are a true joker and a chameleon (a man of many faces.. ;). Nabil, you really need to carry a jacket with you wherever you go (ur inability to withstand cold is much worse than me.. hehe.. i found my match finally.. muahaha)

And Nasha.. keep those shrieking laughter of urs for the day ok.. wuldnt wanna hear that at night.. Muaks.. and my dear o'l cousin.. what can i say, except ur a great great gift to me.. haha! U better thank me for saying all these nice words to u eh.. bluwek!

And babes.. u sure look good in these frames.. haha

Nasha the white bunny! Fai the french portrait!

Enjoy the rest of the pictures..

1. Dinner @ Banquet

2. The food galore

a. Famous Kway teow

b. U Mian & mushroom ban mian

c. White carrot cake

d. Chicken noodle

3. Fooling around @ Mac Cafe

And presenting Alfi, the man of many talents.. haha

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Nicole Scherzinger: Baby Love feat WillI I.Am

Luf this song.. Good lyrics..



Baby Love

I remember like it was yesterday
first kiss and i knew you changed the game
you had me, exactly, where you wanted
and i'm on it, and i aint ever gonna let you get away
holding hands never made me feel this way
so special, boy its your..your smile,
we so in Love (lalalalaaa)yeeeah
we so in Love (Lalalalalaaa)
and i just can't get enough of your
lalala Lovee
yeeah we so in love LOVE
i want you to know...
You are my baby love
my baby love
you make the sun come up
ohh boy (ohh boy)
you're my every everything that i could ever dream of
You are my baby love my baby love
you make the sun come up
ohh boy (ohh boy)
you're my every every every everything
In a minute now we're still holding it down
butterflies everytime he come around
you make me, so crazy, its crazy, ohh baby
i don't ever wanna be with no one else
you're the only one that ever made me melt
you're special, boy it's your, your style
we so in Love (lalalalaaa)
yeeeah we so in love Lalalalalalaa
and i just can't get enoughof your lalala Love
yeah thats all i'm thinking of
LOVE, i want you to know. . .

Cam whoring moments wif Nasha

Nuthing to do.. worked ended early.. so what's next!! Met my gf nasha for a serious case of endless picture takings!! Muahaha.. loved how the pics turned out.. ;)

It's OUr diva, Erin's birthday

Sunday, the 18th of November, was the day our dear o'l Erin was born. She turned 26, happily in love and all ready to prepare for her wedding next yr. Can't wait for that day gurl!! Remember our theme... and me.. ur wedding planner..oh my, i wonder how THAT will turn out! Hehe..

The day started alright. And at the end of the day, we all had so much fun!

1. Indonesian horror movie: Terowong Casablanca (bad sound/visual effects and cheap props. Sundel Bolong is still the most HORRifying show ever!)

2. Delicious snacks: Nuggets, cookies, lontong, longan with milk.. haha..felt like a Hari Raya celebration all over again.

3. Great conversation




4. An hr long of pool @ Marina Square: I really suck at it! Not been practising for the past year, it is a no wonder my hits were all soft and inaccurate... Hehe.. Need to get back in shape.. Pool anyone??!

5. Late dinner at Pizza Hut: We were amazed at how we could still stuff all those food in, even after the heavy snack. And FYI, Alfi and i were from a friend's wedding before heading to Erin's place.. haha.. We can really eat, people!!

6. The hearthy meal

7. Many picture-taking session

The night ended at around 11pm. Erin was pleased with the outing.. and so was everyone else. Happy birthday girl! May you be blessed with many other wonderful things in life.. Give me a godchild soon -> No pressure Acit. ;)

I am SUCH a movie buff!

After my hrs long pic taking, i proceeded to meet my friend Nabil for a movie. SAW IV!!! Movies again.. 3x in a row (in a week)..But to my disappointment, the show was not that great afterall. They really should have stopped at Saw III.. I shall not even bother giving a review about the show. Just a waste of time! Besides the gory scenes, the whole show has no storyline, or at least one that is worth paying $9.50 for!

Ok.. moving on. Nabil brought me to Arab Street for a sumptuous meal at Amirah's Grill. My first time eating at this place..The ambience is nice, food is great.. For those who know me, I am so not adventurous when it comes to food. But this friend of mine kept forcing me to try the hammus, moutabbel and basbousa... OMG! Had to try them.. nt so bad afterall.. ;)

Had a good talk and laugh. And on our way back, it's all about the horror. We shared our close encounters with spirits and ghosts. Of course, Nabil had no such experience.. so just guess who did most of the talking.. hahaa..

Had a great night Nabil.. till next time!

Another adventure of mine

Had the best time yesterday at Vivo City. What can i complain about - Good movie, and an even better company! No pictures tho.. sigh!

We sat and chat after the movie at the roof top. The scenery was really nice. My first time actually being up there. The clear skies, the bright lights and the calm waters.

Never had a real conversation with a guy for that long before. I felt i could say anything, no holds barred. My past, my family and my history. And he listened. He understood. We talked and talked. TIll a point, we knew we had to EAT! Haha.. was disappointed tho that the christmas tree was not ready yet at that time. Pakcik, shall we go again wen it is finally done?? Shld b nice..

Dinner at Banquet. Had my fish n chips (nt that nice.. d fish was not fresh..i still prefer the one at my place. My COD FISH!). Funny thing happened. Was at the fish n chip stall. This makcik served me. Had to wait for like 15-20mins for my food. So i just stood there at the cashier counter, waiting. And when the food was ready, this Malay guy in an apron (another staff at the store) handed me the food. Gave a cheeky look and winked! *Slap.. Gatal! And so the lame conversation with him started;

Mel: How much is it

D guy: Hmmm.. u have not paid eh? Went to the kitchen and asked the makcik if i have indeed pay for the meal (Harlow! Wouldnt i know if i did? I dnt mind a free meal u know? Dnt waste nemore of my time. I am freaking hungry here)

Mel: (Saw the price lists on the counter) $5.50 right? Or free issit?

D guy: Hmm ya.. But if u dnt want to pay, i dnt mind. And another wink at me.

Mel: Huh ru serious? Whats d catch?

D guy: Just your number.. (smiled)

Mel: Haha.. Predictable and Lame. It's ok. I can afford a $5.50 meal. I am flattered that despite ur "busy" schedule, you still have time to flirt. Thanks.

Paid and walked off. Stupid bloke! Go try ur pick up lines on some 15 yrs olds who may see more value in your generous offer. AssHoL* He tinks im worth only $5.50. Pls la.. i have better taste!!

Alright.. sorry for the lil digression.

Pakcik, we gotta take some the next time we meet ya.. i shall bring my camera.. Can't depend on my phone (stupid sony ericsson does not have any flash functions! And urs pakcik, is just vintage) Hehe... well the next outing (which will b real soon) remind me to get that camera from my bro..

Till our next project... star gazing here we come!

Snapshots of Mua!

Memoirs!

Our lives changing

Got these pictures from Jun's blog. Just thought i have them in mine too.. a reminder of how our life changes with age. The happy moments, the friendships we built.. that just grow with time..

Witness the weddings.. Elia's and Siti's. With the rest of singles hoping for the time they get to seat on that "HOT" seat someday soon! ;)

Elia & Izad

Siti & Alfian

Congrats babes! Wishing you a lifetime of happiness.. cant wait for the baby shower..