The case of the mother in law

Relationships are never simple. Just when you think your problem is over, another comes creaping up. It is already tough enough we have to learn to love and accept our partner, we have to also embrace all those who is associated with him. That means his siblings, parents, friends, colleagues, golf buddies etc! The list just never ends. Well, first impression counts, really COUNTS! And if it means endless ass kissing.. then u have gotta do it babe!


But how long can one endure this charade? With time, the act becomes a part of you. You can slowly assimilate and adapt. If you are the social kinda gal, you wouldnt have any problem blending in with the crowd. Sociable individual always makes it look so simple. Your lovable character is well liked by all. And how many times have we drooled in envy when we see one of our friends connect to a group of total strangers so well. It just happens soo naturally? I have seen those types. And i can honestly say, I belong to one of those gals. But trust me, it takes practise. At times, you just have to fake just to get others to notice u! Life is such a bitch!

Well.. the purpose of this blog is to talk abt the mum in laws(MIL). Be it your current MIL or the soon to be. I have no problems making new frens. My biggest issue is always getting along with the mom! His mom! Not that this has been a constant perplexity.. but one incident i can vividly remember till now.

Happened in college. He was a mama's boy. I did not blame him, as he was the only child at that time (for 17yrs) till the arrival of his younger brother. Every decision, be it choice of school, courses, clothes etc, has been made by his mum. So when it comes to me, he has to get the rightful approval from her too. And we were already 19 at that time! He rarely defended me each time the mum tried to bring me down with her sarcastic remarks, OTT praises of how good her son is (results, alma mater, conduct blah blah). In fact, he agreed to them. One time, we were shopping, and she picked up a sari for me. And brought it to the cashier counter. Repeated compliments on her choice (for the sari), she said so non-chalantly to me "Do not worry. You can always pay me back later!" WTF! First of all, i DID not ask to buy the sari. Secondly, you offered to pay, and now you are asking for a refund from me?! All this anger, i just kept it inside of me. I couldn't say it to him.. cos he will just be siding his mum! And everyone can guess what happens next. We broke up. (Take note, this is now an attempt to bad mouth him nor his family. Just a point of reference. She must have hated me for ME.. maybe it is my skin colour, or my nose, or hmm.. u cant expect everyone to fall deeply in love wif u right. Someone just gotta hate ur guts at times. haha. But his dad and i, got along JUST fine. Opposites do attract)

Lesson learnt from this. Never be with a guy who listens 100% to the mum, that he obviously loses all his backbone. A mum who does not like the woman he brings home, will give you hell if you decides to be his wife in the future. Better move on to some other dude, than give yourself hell with this one!

Well.. my case is not a unique one. I have heard of complaints from most of my other gfs. The case of gf vs mum in laws! Just cant get along. They will snarl, subtly of course, stepping on each other's tail.. and the house can never be more heated, with their presence around. And I pity the guy! Stuck between the love of his life and the bearer of the womb that carried him for 9 whole mths! Tough choice huh..

Hmm.. all i can say is.. do think before u decide to walk on dat aisle. Marriage is abt compromise and acceptance. U chose him, u marry everything that comes WITH him.. ;)

To recall, the traditional catholic wedding vow states
"I, _______, take you, ________, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part."

Take note of those words.. it meant something in this case. Muahaha..