An overjealous spouse can hurt your relationship

" The curse of the Green Eye" by Mr Sarcasma (an extract from his own)

We often fear the unknown. Thats why couples shd be honest & tell each other about the people in their lives. When someone tries to hide the existence of certain people from the other, it gives rise to suspicions and encourages mistrust.

A follow up on the blog submitted by my dear M.S.

Honesty and trust, a MUST-HAVE in any relationship. But when is it that jealousy overrides all else that you hold strongly to -> like TRUST, personal space and respect.

I watched the movie Seven last night, and somehow, it got me thinking. Jealousy, a feeling of grudging admiration and desire to have something that is possessed by another, is a common sensation felt by couples in any relationship. Good jealousy is healthy as it expresses your love for your significant other. His overprotectiveness can be such a turn on at times, but of course, in moderation. Men, the high ego being, do not flaunt their weakness openly for all to see, so when they say "Honey, m jealous".. cherish those words like a precious gem. They are not said often.. ;)

However, when is The big J, just TOO MUCH to bear? Is jealousy ever part of the 7 sins? Or is it the root cause for our SEVEN cardinal vices? Let's explore the possibility.

1. Overjealousy = Lust
How many times have we heard of profane remarks from an overjealous bf/gf that socialising equals to having multiple uncontrollable sex! I had that experience before. An ex of mine used to call me a whore/slut/bitch, just because i have a lot of guyfrens either schoolmates or just guy cousins! Crazy i know, but he seemed to think i would sleep with all of them. WTF!

But if you think abt it, perhaps he was behaving that way due to the unfilfilled lust that was building up in him. We were young then, and sex was never on MY mind! And so, being a young man and all, since he could not satisfy that inner desire, he turned his frustrations to jealousy! He says "If I cant have me, no one will!" -> Atypical

2. Overjealousy = Greed
Greed, like lust, is a sin of excess. In my context, greed does not refer to the acquisition of wealth, rather, a possession of another being. Heard n seen so many cases, whereby the girl is just not allowed to meet nor know anyone but him and him alone. A gf of mine is going thru the same thing. She lost all contacts with her frens, EVEN ME, just bacause her bf doesnt allow her to keep in touch with any of them. Not even with her family. Watching tv with her mum is a SIN to him. He wants her only to himself. And no one else can get a share of "her pie".

3. Overjealousy = Wrath
Wrath, the inordinate feelings of hatred and anger. Again, a victim myself to physical abuse. One thing i learnt from this was never to lay hands on a raging bf! They will just hit you even harder.But is it worth it to hit ur spouse, just to vent your anger n let your jealousy be known to her?

4. Overjealousy = Envy
Thomas Aquinas described envy as the "sorrow for another's good". Often a time, that happens in a relationship too. The bf who is jealous of the career success of his gf, often will do all means just to impede it(e.g No OT allowed, no luncheon with colleagues etc). Envy can also happen in friendship. Jealousy among good friends leading to unnecessary conflicts. A test of your friendship for sure. Well.. Hollywood even made a movie out of it. Envy feat Ben Stiller and Jack Black. Good movie!

In all, overjealousy is related to 4 out of 7 deadly sins! Be wary guys, you would not want to have the "Jealous syndrome"! It can turn into a deadly disease. And only you have the cure for it.

On an ending note, a quote from our dear ol' Mr Sarcasma
"Hold on to LOVE as you would hold water in the palm of your hand.
Clutch at it and it's GONE."