The sexless marriage

Marriage, a union of two souls. He is your chosen one: to be Your soulmate, your partner for life through thick and thin. But is it true what they say; "Once hitched, the romance ends!"

Statistical findings in the US showed that, married adults have sex less frequently than anyone in the world. On average, Americans have made love 85 times a year compared to 103 times in Europe. Love making is definitely on the high side among the French. The "French factor" it is called. You live in Europe, be set to have orgasms on a regular basis!

Similarly, in Singapore, we have witnessed the falling birth rates, the rising divorce cases and late marriage.

Why the disturbing numbers? Has sex become undesirable the moment we turn "Mrs"? Some of the reasons cited are time constraints, children, stress, and many more. Endless reasons. And the most recent excuse to marriage dissolution (according to the ST article), the "Me syndrome". These are couples who took their competitive nature a little too seriously. Wanting to be first in everything, even at the expense of compromise. What is the point of saying "I do" to marriage when it is just going to end up as "I don't"!

A worrying trend for the future. Singapore is set to become another Japan in the years to come. Rise of the ageing population -> an anathema condemned by all political leaders.

Ellen, in her show, recently talked about the same issue on sex and marriage. Is there a negative correlation between these two? Based on her research, Americans tend to have sex at least once a week, on average. According to one of the audience she interviewed, sex is a scheduled affair between her and the husband. Due to the hectic career both have, sex is capped at once a week.

Sadly, sex has become part of a chore, a routine activity that one has to plan in order to execute. "The sexless couple" the rightful term for married adults who fall into the following pattern of sex:
Newly weds - Daily sex
Yrs of marriage - Sex once or twice a month (sometimes, none after 3-4 mths)

Even with sex, it is not the usual passionate and erotic love making. Rather, sex has become barren, passionless and mechanical. The older we get, the lesser the desire to have sex with our spouse.

Has marriage really kill sex? Is age a factor to lasting love making? Has our romance die the moment we walk down that aisle? Endless questions, no definite answer.

A societal dilemma that remains within us.

Quoted from an article in Straits Time, "There is no quick solution to a universal problem".