The art of leniency: Work vs love

Saw this article in the papers yesterday abt leniency at work and in a relationship. Are we really more merciful when it comes to deficiencies in character when we are in love?

The writer claimed that humans tend to be more forgiving when it comes to relationship mistakes as compared to those errors we make at work. Yes, you make one big mistake at work, be prepared to get the X. Like in the case of my gf who cost her company millions of dollars due to one wrong transaction, and cos of that, she was fired! No room for reasons, no time for excuses. No leniency there. However, when it comes to relationships, humans often overlook the flaws in their loved ones, and would be willing to forgive and forget. These flaws can include constant physical/emotional abuse, infidelity, constant lies etc. based on my own personal experience, I truly agree. We are willing to sacrifice our dignity, pride, and beliefs, just to uphold that one thing we call LOVE! We turn deaf and blind, all in the name of LOVE!

Multiple chances were given, just to see him change despite the constant disappointment. If this is not leniency, I don't know what is!

Based on the article again, the writer gave a vivid account of the life of some dear ol' gf. Sheila i shall name her. Her "wild" lifestyle involves regular partying, drinking and sex with random men. These men, after a night of HOT sex, in return, asked her to be their gf. But Sheila who may have accepted some of those proposals, continued her playful ways and flirted with other equally sleazy men! Upon discovering her ways, these so called bfs of hers, forgave her. Status quo. This act of generosity, is seen as leniency (to the writer).

Is this really the case? Has the writer overlooked the real reasons behind kind gestures of these men? Is there really love to begin with between Sheila and her men? Or was it more of the fulfilment of lust? Based on what i read, Sheila is definitely the kinda girl you would want to have on the side. Free and easy, cheap and fun! Beats all those women at geylang, and certainly not burn a $40 hole in any man's pocket!

These men definitely DID not forgive her cos they love her. They want her around anytime, anywhere. Sheila is just a booty call. That sweet talks and empty promises were just to lure her to stay. Nothing more.

How could the writer regard this as leniency? In my view, it is just another scheming, manipulative behaviour from a man to get into any women's panties.

Using the act of infidelity (a fling partner to another) vs the act of divulging company's sacred information? Immaterial basis for leniency comparison.